Seed Theory（种子论）

SEED THEORY （种子论）

Take a look at an apple tree. There might be five hundred apples on the tree, but each apple has ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds!
看看一颗苹果树，树上或许有五百粒苹果，而每粒苹果内又有十颗种子，有挺多种子的呀！

We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more apple trees?" Nature has something to teach us here.
我们也许会问：“你为何需要那么多的种子只为多种几颗苹果树呢？”在此自然界将会给予我们某些启示。

It's telling us: "Not all seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow. So if you really want to make something happen, you better try more than once." This might mean:
- You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job.
- You'll interview forty people to find one good employee.
- You'll talk to fifty people to sell one house, one car, one vacuum cleaner, one insurance policy, or a business idea.
其道理告诉我们：“不是所有的种子都会成长。在现实生活中，多数种子都长不了。因此，如你要达成某事，就得不断努力。”这意味着：
- 你得获得20次面试以便谋得一份工作。
- 你得面试40个人以便寻得一位好员工。
- 你得与50个人接触及面谈后才有可能销售一间房子、一辆汽车、一台吸尘器、一份保单或一个商业构思。

And you might meet a hundred acquaintances just to find one special friend. When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so disappointed.
或许你要在所认识的许许多多人当中才能找到一位知己。但当我们了《种子定律》后，我们将不会感到很悲观与失望。

- We stop feeling like victims.
- We learn how to deal with things that happen to us.
- 我们停止怨天尤人。
- 我们学会如何应对发生在我们身上的事。

Laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to understand them - and work with them.
我们不必对自然定律耿耿于怀。我们需要了解其定律 – 并善加予以配合。

IN A NUTSHELL 简言之

Successful people fail more often.
But they plant more seeds.
When Things Are Beyond your control, here's something that you must
NOT DO so as to avoid misery in your life:
- You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be.
- You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.

成功的人经常失败；但他们播种更多的种子。
当事情在你的控制以外时，应避免下列事项以免自寻烦恼：
- 你不能决定地球该怎么转。
- 你不能要求每个人得做些什么、该怎么做。

Because, when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry! That's what miserable people do!
因为，当世界不服从你的规则时，你就会生气！这将令你更加不愉快！

On the other hand, let's say you expect that:
- Friends SHOULD return favours.
- People SHOULD appreciate you.
- Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
- Everyone SHOULD be honest.
- Your spouse or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday.

另一方面，假设说如果你期望：
- 朋友应予以回报。
- 人们应该赞赏您。
- 飞机应准时抵达。
- 每个人都得诚实。
- 你的配偶或最要好的朋友应该记得你的生日。

These expectations may sound reasonable.
But often, these things won't happen!
这些期望听起来也许合理。但是经常的都不会实现!

So you end up frustrated and disappointed.
There's a better strategy. Demand less, and instead, have preferences!
因此最终你将会感到不满和失望。
在此有个更好的策略。减少要求，并尽可能的，提供多项选择。

For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:
I WOULD PREFER "A", BUT IF "B" HAPPENS, IT'S OK TOO!
This is really a change in mindset.
It is a shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace of mind
对于在你掌控以外的事，须告诉自己：
我喜欢并选择“A”，但如果“B”发生的话，也还是能接受的！
这在思想上确实是个改变。态度上的变化，它给予你在心境上更多的安宁。

- You prefer that people are polite ... but when they are rude,
it doesn't ruin your day.
- You prefer sunshine ... but if it rains, it is ok too!
- 你喜欢更有礼貌喜的人。。。但是，如果他们表现得粗鲁，
那并不影响你的心情。
- 你较喜欢有阳光。。。但如果下雨，也还是能接受的！

To become happier, we either need to:
a) Change the world, or
b) Change our thinking.
要活得更愉快，我们得：
a) 改变世界，或
b) 改变我们的思想。

It is "Easier to Change our Thinking"!
事实上，“改变我们的思想”更为容易。

IN A NUTSHELL 简言之
It is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your attitude attending to the problem that is the problem. It's not what happens to you that determine your happiness. It's how you think about what happens to you!
问题的本身并无问题，其问题在于你是以何种心态看待问题。你的幸福与快乐取决于当问题出现时你是以何种心态处理问题！

(Chinese Translation by floydtan08@gmail.com )